What does it take to be a good mother in Russian culture?
About Motherhood in Russia
They say that in many ways, Russian women are very different from women of other countries—and I’m not talking about a Russian woman’s priorities, values or mannerisms. There is a special vibe about them and I’m sure you can easily spot another Russian woman anywhere you go. But what do we know about Russian women as mothers? Is it true that they wear heels even till the last minute of their pregnancy?
On April 22nd, Daunt Books (London’s leading travel and literature bookshop) based in Fulham will launch “Motherhood, Russian-Style”, a new book from Tanja Maier. An investment banker in the past, now mother of three, Tanja tells her story and shares her experiences (including being a single mother) during her life in USA, England, Austria and Russia.
A light-hearted, easy to read book is perfect for someone who would like to discover more about strange (strange for non-Russians) and sometimes funny traditions, stereotypes and signs which only Russian mothers and fathers understand. N.B I’m saying “strange” because I’m Russian myself and my English boyfriend finds our ways of thinking or beliefs slightly weird and/or old-fashioned. Smile.
Let me give you few examples: when you are pregnant, let’s say in Moscow, even frightening sales assistants become kind and friendly which, trust me, is very rare in Russia! You are not allowed to carry heavy stuff, men on the tube let you have their seats and, in general, everyone around is more understanding. On the other hand, in England and USA, pregnancy isn’t an illness and the mother (to be), no matter how many months left, is like any other woman any other day, following the same daily routine at work and at home. Maybe the princess is coming out of me but big no to that!
Here is another interesting fact: a Russian mother (to be) never cuts or colour her hair during her pregnancy and will spend a lot of time and money to find the best clinic. After the baby is born, a Russian mother will never show it outside family during its first 40 days. Does that sound strange to you?! Maybe. But Russians follow this tradition irrespective of age or circumstance.
And no matter how tired or busy a Russian mother is, she always wears high heels! This unusual fact was noticed by Pamela Druckerman, author of “French children don’t throw food” during her visit to Moscow. There is no secret, women from Russia and ex USSR countries particularly look after themselves and a mother is no exception.
Maybe in the future, I should buy this book for my boyfriend so he could get understanding and would be prepared for the Russian motherhood in style!
If you aren’t able to join the “Motherhood, Russian-style” presentation on 22nd April, there will be a champagne brunch next day at Fortnum & Masons.
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